Everyone who has ever experienced a heartbreak understands how disruptive it is.
Thinking that you’ve committed so much time and effort towards a person, it all slowly crumbles to bits and pieces. From someone you once shared your whole life with, to a total complete stranger.
To many, we often refer to ourselves as ‘we’ instead of ‘I’ in a relationship. It’s as if a tethered string is constantly binding the both of us together. And when it serves, that feeling is like being shot in the heart and a part of yourself has faded away.
It is no lie that recuperating from a broken heart is not easy at all. But perhaps it’s ourselves that hinder us from finding that light at the end of the tunnel. Question is, do we truly want to get over a heartbreak? Or are we the one barely holding on to this invisible string?
Like anything, it’s going to take time to recover. But so long as you want to recover, you can! Here are 5 interesting ways to help you deal with a terrible break up :
1. Dump momentos that remind you of your ex
This is definitely easier said than done, but so long as you try your best to put all your ex’s stuff away, it can aid in helping you get over your ex. You would have collected countless mementos such as photos, souvenirs, and any other items that fall into the category of helping you remember him. Gather everything that your ex gave you and put it inside a box and lock that box and give that key to someone you trust until you finally get over your ex.
2. Keep yourself busy
During this dark hour in your life, you should try to socialize with your friends. If starting off with a large group of friends is a little overwhelming, then start with that one friend you trust most. It doesn’t have to be just friends, it could be taking a trip somewhere, picking up a new hobby or listening to music. Whatever it may be, destress yourself by doing something. Remind yourself of the things you once loved to do or perhaps might love to do in the near future!
It is always not easy lowering out ego and forgiving our exes. The act of forgiveness refers to a halt of that anger that burns within you towards a certain person. Sometimes it’s so easy to play this blame game with your ex, but is it really worth your time? Instead of that, how about you find a different set of words to say, like ‘We weren’t compatible, or ‘we were two very different people’, Always strive to be the better person in not just a relationship but in everything in your life!
4. Start rebuilding your life
Like anything that crumbles down, it can also be rebuilt. Love is indeed a battlefield! Channel all that anger and grief you have inside of you into rebuilding your emotional and financial life back up. Those things you never had any time to do in the past or perhaps any dreams you once had but never got to fulfill? This is when you take that opportunity to finally take that leap of faith into a better future.
5. Don’t ever give up on love
Your faith in love should never be lost! There are tons of fish in the water and one bad apple should never spoil the entire barrel. Don’t close out your heart to any new love. Get out there and socialize, meet new people, talk, laugh and just enjoy your life! One day love will find you instead of you looking for it. Remember! How you live your life is up to you!
Let us know which tip helped you best in your healing process in the comments below!
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