In recent years, mental health is often associated with cyberbullying, among many other genetic and domestical factors.
In a statistic shared by Comparitech, Malaysia was ranked the 6th in the world where parents reported that their child has been a victim of cyberbullying, which also makes Malaysia as the number 1 country in Asia for this arena!
Aside from Breast Cancer Month, October 10th is a day dedicated for Mental Health Awareness. Sure enough, there were a surge of people who took it online to share about their own experiences dealing with mental health issues, with some showing their support for anyone dealing with mental health issues and bringing awareness towards this pressing social epidemic.
Here are 5 people who shared their thoughts and stories:
1. Adele Chow
Adele took it to YouTube recently to share her personal story on how the passing of her beloved mother has affected her mental well-being. To quote the entrepreneur, “I went through this period feeling stuck, but not knowing how to grief”.
It took a great deal of courage before she could finally seek professional help. As she is now in a better state of mind, Adele made it a point to render her help to people who’s going through the same thing.
2. Gaston Pong
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嗨。我是碰弟Gaston，有話想說。 我想分享我對憂鬱的認知，因為那是我走過的路。 今年真的太多親友離開我。最近看到有外國藝人輕生，其實心裡一直有話想說。 有留意我的音樂創作朋友都有聽過我從小被霸凌的故事。家裏教會我善待每個人。但似乎，在小學、中學到大學，都沒人善待我，常被班上的同學公開嘲笑和排擠。 和任何一位藝人一樣，我踏入演藝圈是因為熱忱。帶著懷抱夢想的心，自己走入了網路世界，錄製翻唱作品上傳到網路。我曾經被公司否認實力，所以想，不如自己試試找平台？一開始是因為大學畢業，想試試能不能在時限內，闖一闖，用興趣賺錢養活自己，不让家人操心。 Yes，我很幸運。碰碰透過一波又一波的走火影片，很多人認識了我。我感謝網路給過我數不完的工作機會，也在虛擬世界得到了粉絲的愛，更在現實世界中慢慢得到大眾的認可。 單純的Gaston，從來沒有想到原來愛音樂，是要付出可怕的代價。 從音樂人，一夜之中變成了公眾人物，我被標籤為「網紅，網路歌手，藝人」。這些詞都超陌生的。一開始，素人變公眾人物真的有太多不習慣，似乎有太多的讚美與批評，讓我覺得透不過氣。 身為公眾人物，我們做事處處會被放大。除了有酸民刻意放大之外，網路上的觀眾多，自然網路上的創作和言語都會被很多雙眼睛盯著👀。 還記得，在第一隻破百萬觀看的影片底下，有上萬則留言。因為很在乎創作是否有好的迴響，我曾經往下刷完留言到天亮。抱著一個不甘心，一則留言接著一則。當時不解，為什麼我對音樂的純樸熱愛，會惹人恨，譏諷？ 經過2年的每週影片更新，猶如冒出YouTube廣告一樣，我漸漸對於酸民留言免疫了。不是不會有感覺，而是沒有感覺了。 其實是也好，有點像是大腦保護機制讓自己不去做感受吧。後來我才體會到新的心態：鼓勵的話要放在心上，建設性的留言可以吸取，人身攻擊的留言都務必跳過。 憂鬱症，其實就是一種自我淪陷。在自身體驗之前，我都覺得這個概念很好笑。我聽過別人說，憂鬱症是被惡魔吞噬了。以前常常笑問，這個惡魔哪裡來？ 惡魔其實就是自己的心理健康。 因為工作壓力，自小的陰影，沒自信的個性，這些因素造成，長時間收到酸民留言的我，陷入了憂鬱。 那段時期，我曾經100%否認自己。我被看不見我背後努力的酸民成功說服我就是個沒用的人。 但我很幸運，在低谷期，是姐姐努力拉我一把。因為沒有把影片剪完，我在她面前自責，打自己罵自己。（這種畫面酸民不懂，我也不可能拍給你看哈哈哈）姐姐看了一定超心疼啊！對於中學就踏入演藝圈的她，已經生經百戰。她換了很多方式鼓勵我，幫我建立正面的心態，才找到微弱的力量站起來。 最近，一些感情經歷，我又再次陷入了憂鬱。那時候很無助也很害怕，為什麼自己已經這麼不完美，但在感情世界也是個失敗的人。自我淪陷又回來敲門，我在此掉入了無底洞。好幾個晚上，我根本沒有抽泣，也沒有傷心，卻可以看著天花板眼淚一直流。甚至熬夜剪片,眼淚直淌…..無理由的害怕和悲傷，覺得沒人可以理解。 為什麼會這樣？我自己也不明白。所以我選擇需求幫助。本身不愛表達情緒的我，應該找誰傾訴？我害怕告訴了家人讓他們擔心，告訴同事又影響工作進展，告訴朋友又讓他們難受。最後決定去看心理輔導。 第一次看心理輔導有點像上補習班，或是看牙醫😂填寫基本資料後，就跟著輔導師走進房間。 輔導師問我有什麼要聊？一開始我很害怕，所以說話一直有所保留，更害怕自己看醫生的經歷被傳出去。原來，凡是有執照的輔導醫生，是不可以對外洩漏求診者的狀況，連櫃檯小姐也不會知道我和他說了她的壞話哦～😂符合職業道德上，其實心理輔導是超級私密的。 ❤️碰弟GASTON心理輔導初體驗的心得❤️ 1）心理輔導，是用第三人的客觀角度，瞭解一個人的問題，分析心理負擔的多面由來。 很多時候憂鬱症病患，會覺得自己很多「但是」。我想做A但是會傷害B。我想做C，但是會影響我在D的表現。這些「但是」會讓我們卡在黑洞裡！放輕鬆，要告訴醫生你的多方面壓力，說完之後，你會發現，其實自身的狀況一點都不糟糕！ 醫生會建議一些心態建設，讓我發現事情並沒有絕望！有句話說，如果你沒辦法改變事實，那就改變心態。在醫生建議的思維模式下去練習一週，我整個人變得很開朗！（你們放心，醫生不是叫我逃避問題，而是處理事情該有的心態） 2）醫生喜歡說：心理健康也是健康！ 我們為了不生病，必須運動，有健康的飲食，吃維他命，足夠的睡眠！ 同樣的，心理健康呢： 運動= 練習健康的思維模式 健康的飲食= 快樂的心態和想法 維他命 = 看似微不足道讓自己快樂的小事 睡眠 = 心理上的休息，可以是旅遊、愛好、自我充電的metime！ 有了健康的心理才不會生病！是誰對於自己的心理健康該有責任呢？是我們自己喔！別人沒必要幫你刷牙的道理是一樣的😂 3）沒什麼好丟臉的！而且其實也不會很貴！ 就像發燒會看病一樣，經過輔導後變得更強壯💪🏻 我更快樂了！我的第一次輔導差不多價錢是在RM 2XX 喔～其實和大感冒的醫藥費差不多！ 公眾人物被設立在框框內或者，每天搏鬥負評，工作壓力和自身的陰影。但藝人也是人，看見他們那麼堅強微笑，真的辛苦了❤️ 希望這文可以減少社會對於心理的忽視💪🏻 我想鼓勵大家在網路上互相扶持，創造更美好的網絡世界❤️
The singer took it to Instagram to share about his battle with depression. He shared about his days in high school and elementary school where he was often ridiculed. Fast forward to present day, Gaston, who is pursuing his career in show business had to deal with a handful of impediments, and how this too has affected him.
The young artist shared about his experiences in seeking professional help, and urges his followers to spread more love than hate on the Internet.
3. Isabelle Choo
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I survived. How are you feeling today? World Mental Health Day just passed and I would like to touch abit on my thoughts on the importance of mental wellbeing. In 2014, I was diagnosed with major depressive disorder for 2 years and was in and out of high school and psychologist centers, not being able to do or feel anything, experiencing the lack of interest in the things I used to find joy doing, accompanied by depressive episodes that resulted in lack of sleep (and having to take sleep-inducing drugs as a result). I found myself spiralling downwards into something so black, dark and empty because of many unfortunate incidents that happened within the time frame. Being a victim of sexual assault amongst the many other factors acted as the main catalyst for my depression. I’ve been known to be a confident, talkative girl throughout my life but being in that state, I was stripped off of all my redeeming qualities & became a girl who couldn’t stop contemplating suicide as an answer. There’s so much more details to share about this journey of mine but I want to just say one thing, if you’re not okay, please find the little strength in you to speak to atleast one person you trust. Taking that step was the thing that saved me (and I know it’s easier said than done because I took 2 years before finally speaking to someone). Luckily for me, I spoke to my brother before I attempted suicide in 2015 and that was when my family realised how serious mental well-being was/is. I was saved. I survived and I’m okay. Please don’t hesitate to talk to me if you’re not, I want to be there to help you 💙 @narellekheng #part2 #tears #blue #letmebe
Isabelle is a young entrepreneur who also took it to Instagram to talk about her battle with major depressive disorder. A sexually assaulted victim herself, Isabelle talked about how it took her 2 years to finally speak to someone before her attempted suicide in 2015. The beautiful lass ended the note by offering help to any of her followers.
4. Narelle Kheng
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💙 it’s out! 💙 Thank you guys for all the messages of support, honestly I really bloody appreciate every single one. Usually when people say nice things to me some part of me dies a little out of shame because I feel like a fraud. I cant accept love if I don’t first love myself. This year I’ve been actively learning to shrink the mountains that have seemed so daunting, and crawl my way to a ver of me that I love. It’s been tiring but rewarding, and this release is a huge huge milestone for me ✨ Today the biggest win is that when I woke up and listened through the EP entirely, I felt happy and proud. And not hit by a wave of shame and self-loathing (only maybe slight panic attacks lol). Thank you to @abouritz @tim_amunasha @nydiashiang @jasongelchen for running alongside me and picking me up when I fall. Everyday I show up because of your commitment 💙 @joshwei_ @yvesrothman the beautiful ppl. Sony Music, for allowing me the privilege of doing music. & everyone else that’s been a part thus far!!!💙 Pls add the songs to your playlists, if u like them hahaha out now on Spotify & Apple Music
Narelle Kheng is a Singaporean-based artist who channels her music from her battle with depression. According to an interview done by Zula.sg, Narelle shared about seeing a therapist and stopped because she wanted to fix herself.
The young artist shared some of the advice that helped her, saying “My therapist told me to talk to the little girl inside me, instead of the adult.” She added that there’s a young person inside every one of us that needs healing. and talking kindly to that young person helps them grow up.
5. Nicholas Chia
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Super grateful to be surrounded by the most supportive friends in my life, but not all of us have that ☹️ The world mental health day just happened and I’d just like to bring a little awareness about mental health. Mental health is something everybody has, but it’s a matter of how good or how bad our mental healths are. • I’ve personally never experienced my mental health at its lowest but I’ve seen so many out there who have and This omniprésence of mental illness is only increasing in our era. Over the short course of my life, I’ve seen countless completely disconnect from the world. From being the most talkative and cordial person, to a person who wallows in angst on days end and contemplates suicide. I believe we overlook mental illness so very easily and turn a blind eye to these frail souls in their time of need. I’ve seen my very own high school teachers disregarding the very existence of mental health issues during the downfall of their student’s grades. Unknowing that their little actions could very well be the catalyst of their suicidal thoughts. • This beautiful soul standing beside me in the photo is the epitome of someone who has gone through so much In her life from many hapless incidents. From a person who’s always been exuberant to someone whose voice was stripped during her darker days. I’m ever so glad that she’s grew to be the strong person she is today albeit all that has happened. • If you’re dealing with mental health issues I hope you can find it in you to talk to someone you trust most. I understand that actions speak louder than words. Some take even up to 2 years before that silence is finally broken, but this leap of faith will significantly aid in easing your pain. My mental health might not have been as bad as my courageous friends but I’ve dealt with my fair share of inner demons to know that sometimes not everyone understands you. That is why I urge, you speak to the right person you trust. They survived, they lived, but not everyone does. • If you’re having a hard time with your mental health, by all means drop me a dm. I want to be there for you and lend an ear to any of you 💙 @narellekheng #part2 #tears #blue #letmebe
Nicholas took it to Instagram to share a rather fashion-directed post with his friend, but with a caption that explains the struggles and hardships his friend went through. Though he’s not someone who has experienced mental illness, Nicholas shares his experience about how teachers too can disregarding the very existence of mental health issues.
Nicholas also urges his followers to talk to someone they trust most in time of need, and offered his help to anyone out there who needs it.
Do you have similar experiences that you’d like to share? Let us know at the comments!
Header image source: Adele Chow | Gaston Pong | Isabelle Choo | Narelle Kheng | Nicholas Chia