Let’s be real here, body positivity and self-confidence are one of those things that come and go. Ever been on a steady health routine before complacency or discouragement takes over? Same. But even though it is normal to lack consistency in your long-term health goals, it’s not normal to put yourself down over something you can’t change. So, how do we grow to accept our body the way it is?
Body goals are not really body goals.
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One thing that really helped me get over my own insecurity is the reassurance that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. As cliché as that sounds, there’s a reason why we find it hard to believe. Not only did the media instill a certain beauty standard in us, many of us are also not taught to see the world correctly. Be a critical viewer of the world and pay attention to what is not shown to you: the stretch marks on a model’s butt, a chubby woman with flawless skin, etc. True beauty lies in diversity. Remember that before you sulk enviously while scrolling through your Instagram.
Love your body for what it can do.
We often forget what great things we can achieve with our body on a daily basis (remember all those times your body recovered from a massive fever?) Exactly. Apart from that, you are also capable of doing many things with your body such as working out, wearing cute clothes, dancing, hanging out with your loved ones, and eating all the good food this world has to offer. When you learn to appreciate the little pleasures of life because you are able-bodied, then you will realise how much privilege you have so you can focus on being the best you possible.
Dress your best and forget about the rest.
There’s a reason why style is a crucial aspect of beauty. I admit that there are days where I look in the mirror and feel blegh after a huge meal, but guess what? That’s what sundresses are for! There is always the right clothing for every occasion, mood, and setting. Wear something that makes you feel comfortable, brings out the best in you, and compliments your shape. Soon you will learn how to master the art of wearing your best rather than wearing the best. You do you!
Learn the meaning of balance.
To be realistic, many of us feel a huge amount of regret after doing things we shouldn’t do like breaking a diet, skipping a workout, or snacking on junk food past midnight. Look, we’re only human. Instead of dwelling on our mistakes, try practicing moderation in everything you do. Statistics show that an insatiable desire for thinness is the leading cause of eating disorders like Anorexia Nervosa. Unless you’re forced to be disciplined with your body goals like Victoria’s Secret Angels, we suggest that you go for a more practical approach and have balance in your lifestyle. It’s easier! You are also less likely to cave in to unhealthy cravings.
Surround yourself with positive people.
Last but not least, you are who you surround yourself with. There’s a fine line between a person who cares for you and a person who criticises you over things you are born with. The ones who are truly supportive are those who will never try to change you. They will grow with you, nurture you, and help you fix yourself should you ever need the support. If you find yourself in a position that forces you to succumb to any sort of pressure, learn how to let yourself go and realise that people should love you for who you really are.