In my circle of friends, we all know at least one person who has experienced the plight of having, maintaining or even cultivating a long distance relationship. While most people think that long distance relationships won’t work at all, read on and find out why that might not always be true.
1. Deciding to start
The main issue most couples face before even beginning the LDR is to decide whether or not to maintain the relationship. If they were both to be separated from each other for an extended period of time, and reasons could be that distance hurts the relationship, the effort is too huge, the commitment won’t be enough and even just not having them physically might will hurt the relationship. But if you don’t try, how would you know for sure?
Everything in life takes effort to maintain, from your car to your physical being. Everything takes effort, so if the relationship matters enough to you, why would you waste all the effort that you’ve put into it over the years just to see it go up in flames? For the greater good? As long as both parties are willing to put in the effort to maintain the relationship, the chances of staying together will always be higher.
“I’m your wife, I’m the greatest good you’re ever going to get!” – Frozone’s wife.
I believe we’ve truly lost something great over the years, the ability to work things out and compromise to reach an understanding. While making yourself a priority should be maintained, a relationship also requires sacrifice to reach a compromise, meet in the middle so that things can work out instead of tossing it out over something minuscule.
4. Physical attention
We all miss the feeling of warmth you get from hugging your loved one sometimes, and with long distance relationships it can be tough without the other person around. While this is a big deal, it’s not a green light to go ahead and cheat, try hanging out with buddies and even discover yourself along the way! Best tip would be to go work out, or buy a body pillow.
5. Relationship might start to become boring
There is a real possibility that you might start to find your relationship boring after awhile, as it takes all of the above to maintain, but when you start to falter, ask yourself why you did it in the first place, is that person no longer worth your time/effort? Why? Because you got tired? Although, if the relationship is starting to mess with your mental health, maybe it is time to leave.
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